So as the title reads my girlfriend of 3 years pulled the plug on our relationship because I dodnt give her enough attention. Keep in mind these 4 things. We have a daughter together, She plays Xbox very often with dudes, she doesn't want to he "held down" by me and she doesn't want to give me a chance to change. Now this whole relationship I have done nothing but care for this girl until we got pregnant and had our daughter. My priorities changed. It was about my daughter from that point on. It hurt but I knew it needed to happen. So I did just that. I would come home to her playing Xbox and laughing like give never seen before. I never gave it thought until one night she stayed up till 4 in the morning to stay in a party chat with one dude. We weren't together at this time so I had no say and couldn't get mad or say anything. I grabbed my nuts and ignored it. Next day same thing. The next day same thing. Until 2 nights ago. She came to bed at 4:00 am as usual from talking with this one guy in particular. I knew something was up. So I slept it off until 530 am. Her phone went off repeated texts. I needed to shut it off before it woke our daughter. I did. And I instantly regretted it. I saw texts from this dude on Xbox and her. "Baby the way you clutched that game was so hot" Baby I can't wait to see you." texts from him like "When is this loser gonna leave, he has no balls" I left it and went to work like that. I got back from work, got my stuff and left that night. I stayed at a buddy's house and cried it off. Next day she calls me says she wants to talk. Asks me to be with her again I say yes and I regret it now. I'm trying to make it work now but I'm miserable but I need to be there for my daughter. I even still let her talk to this dude as friends so she can see that in trying but it hurts. I'm so torn but I still love this girl. I need any advice please.
Most Helpful Girl
Wow, this really sucks. It sucks for you and it sucks for your daughter. Your partner, for lack of a better term to call her, seems very immature and not focused on keeping the family intact for your daughter.
If you want to keep this family together for your daughter, I suggest you ask your partner if she wants the same thing. If she does, I would ask her to stop playing xbox and chatting with other dudes as a sign of good faith.
Ask her to do it for six months and in that six months, you guys will go to couple's counseling.
You can not keep this family together alone. Your partner needs to be on board as well. The six months should give you both time to figure out your priorities.
Hopefully by the end of the six months your priorities align. I am not sure it will but for the sake of your daughter I hope it works out.
Best of luck to you.1
Most Helpful Guy
you guys just need to communicate and get on the same page. you should both appreciate spending time with your daughter together. you can split the household chores so you have more time to spend together.
perhaps you could each sit down and say the things that you're willing to change to help the relationship. you could give her the attention she deserves and she could cut back her Xbox time.
plan something romantic together to reconnect and find things to do together :)