So, quick background... dating this guy for year and a half. I love him obviously, but it has been rocky. He has cheated on me twice but then around December we had moved past everything and were doing great! I have a daughter that I thought he loved and then in sometime in January he started to change. He starting acting funny and then came home one day and was like I don't want to see you anymore because you have kids and I don't see a future with you. We never really stopped talking then got back to together to back up a few days later. I later found out he was seeing I girl I suspected he was cheating on me with. He said she had nothing to do with it that it is because I have kids. For about a month and half we've spent 4-5 days a week together going on dates, sleep overs and sex. I have asked a few times about getting back to together and he says he isn't sure yet but most likely not but its ruling it out. He is openly dating and tells be everything and it hurts my feelings. He however, doesn't want me to date and will be very nasty, if I go out or out of town accusing me of seeing someone else (which I'm not). Just the other day he said he loves me and misses my daughter be then pulls away. Its literally can change from morning to night. Then he calls me begging for me back and gets mad when hears I'm out or trying to date online, etc.
Should I give him an ultimatum or just leave? Or keeping trying to make this work on his terms? I know I deserve more then he is offering I would just hate to think I couldn't have tried to make this work. A part of me thinks he really does care and the part feels like a fool who is being used.
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Jesus Christ please tell me you're not this dumb. Why in the name of God would you take back a cheater once let alone multiple times? Why in the name of God would you be with someone that doesn't want you? I can't believe I'm having to explain this. You're nothing but a side chick. Someone he can drift in and out of your life to fuck you when he pleases and you're stupid enough to do it. He won't ever be what you want so an ultimatum won't work. He would just lie and continue his cheating ways anyway. This will never change or go anywhere good so you have a decision0