I am speaking with this guy and he started asking me about my past relationships.. i messed up a bit in the past.. i cannot tell him or i will screw up everything.. at the same time, what if one of the guys i slept with in the past, came up later and told him something he do not want to hear.. i cannot tell him either because he will assume i am not the girl he wants.. he is an amazing guy and i really like him.. what shall i do?
Most Helpful Guy
Just spill the beans... if some shit you did in the PAST bugs this guy and is the reason why he won't stick around? Fuck him... good riddance... now you can move on. Like you said, its better than someone else telling him later on down the line.1
Most Helpful Girl
What are you worried about your past would happen? How did you mess up?
You could tell him that your past is in your past and you'd like to leave it there. Unless there is a reason he needs to know (honestly, all he would need to know is that you have no kids from any previous relationship and you're clean) then let's just leave the past where it belongs.
Now if there is actually something from your past that is relevant, something that could potentially destroy your relationship, it would be better if he heard it from you instead of from someone else. At least that way you can ensure you phrase it in the best possible way and ensure he has the proper context.0