I'm seriously broken right now. My boyfriend and I were together for 3 years and yesterday I found out that he had been talking to another girl (for I don't know how long) and he was acting like everything was ok between the whole time. We were going through a rough patch, but what couple doesn't go through rough patches? I was under the impression that we were working things out, but the girl he has been talking too said that he said that our relationship died and that him and I didn't even talk like that. But, we talked every single day, even if we had arguments... we still talked so I thought everything was ok, but I guess I was wrong. He likes the other girl better because she has a car and a full time job (but he doesn't and he has no job) and they can go places and do more things, I guess. I don't have a car, but I have a job and I'm working hard to get one. But, we would always hangout at my house and watch movies together and smoke and I guess he got bored of me. I was always there for him even in those moments where I shouldn't have been there and It hurts because he said our relationship died, but I thought we were gonna be ok. I tried my best to make him happy. I feel really stupid now and I can't stop crying. I'm really hurting and I don't know what to do. What are the first steps to moving on from someone you truly loved?
Most Helpful Guy
You have to acknowledge that you did your best but he just wasn't down, so there was nothing else you could do. At least he didn't cheat on you, or even manage to cheat on you?
In terms of moving on, time is the greatest healer. Don't rush yourself, but also don't sit around crying over him. It's important to try to carry on living your life. Do things to distract yourself, go out and enjoy life. It's always hard at the beginning but if you allow yourself to move on then you will be able to in no time.0
Most Helpful Girl
That sucks as to how he did you. But honestly you listed that he has no car and no job, Is that really someone that you can see yourself with for long. Usually men like that end up dating someone who can help them out. He is no longer a headache for you anymore. Now he is someone else problem. You may not see it now, but believe me from what I am reading about the guy you are not missing anything with this guy. He wasted your time. Its going to take months to get over him because the breakup is fresh. It took me months to get over someone i was talking too. It was not easy, but as each day goes by you will start to notice that you will get hours without thinking until it becomes days and then months.0