o feel embarrassed and pathetic i told him this
There is nothing pathetic about admitting that he hurt you. If he was any kind of a partner he'd know that already, most people aren't stupid or blind.
It would only be an issue if you expected that telling him would make any kind of difference. It might, it might not. He might care, he might not. He might say the right things and yet still not care and still not change. You aren't able to control how an ex moves forward, you can only control how you move forward.
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