Most Helpful Guy
well i was exactly that guy, we were long distance, and I pretty much gave up my social life to be with my ex on Skype. Many reasons were involved in that decision, but i won't get into that. My girlfriend felt neglected because I was always depressed, she showered me with love but i had a hard time reciprocating over a webcam. Time apart will make him realize just exactly what he means to you and you to him. He can go off and find another girl and you can go off and find another guy. In the end the same thing may happen after a while. That is when we realize sometimes we have to accept certain people for who they are, and if they love us. I loved her very much, but she didn't think so. i think about her everyday it's been 5 months since I've seen or talked to her. I've been through break ups before but I can say 100% that this was the girl I wanted to marry one day. I just wish we could have at least stayed friends. Now everytime I find a girl attractive, i feel guilty and she is constantly popping into my head. Everyone is different though, I don't want to date anyone but her. Yet the loneliness is overwhelming. The thought that one day I will get over her also makes me feel sick yo my stomach because I truly do love her. Believe that people can change with time and once they realize what they have lost. I did but I will never have her back, but I did because It is the only way to make up for the neglect i put her through.
Most Helpful Girl
Is this the one you wrote the mytake about intimacy about? In that, you mentioned you hadn't met in person yet... and that can kill almost any relationship. The mytake was great, by the way.
Long distance is fine, as long as there's visits and an end date. People have to do it sometimes, for one reason or another. A relationship just has to have an in person element at some point though, otherwise it is easy to get to a place you just can't deepen it any further. All the little in person things we all take for granted (or get irritated by, lol) are what makes a relationship keep deepening. It's about shared, lived experiences. If you never get to see how their eyes light up when your out for a walk together, or how they always trip over that one step, it's hard to live life in a replay mode where things are either past or you're stuck to a screen/phone.
How to get past it? Work on you. Get back your hobbies, give yourself the attention and efforts you have the relationship. Find something you like to do during the times you used to spend on the phone/computer with him. Let it be as it is, or seriously consider being in physical proximity if you want him back. Sometimes timing and distance mean it's impossible, for now. If you cared for him, wish for him to put the effort I to himself too, and grow and find happiness. Maybe you'll be able to see if it'd work in the future, or maybe you'll just learn about yourself and what you want/need in a future relationship. You can love somebody but not have it work out.
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