I've been thinking about it a lot lately--- searching the internet for people who relate to my opinion because my girl friends don't necessarily relate (one is 100% on my side, one is a long term serial monogamist), but I feel trapped in my relationship, and im not sure im ready to be so tied down. My boyfriend moved to America for me (although he claims Im only a factor, he attends law school here too), and i know that he loves me more than I love him (I can just feel it, he's needier, talks about our future more, says I love you first). At times I feel like he's smothering me, and I think I just want to be single. Not to hoe around, but because its exhausting being a senior in college and worrying about maintaining my relationship with him (he just needs to much attention). I love him, he's one of my best friends, and the thought of him not being in my life hurts me, but at the same time, I'm not ready to just decide be with him for the rest of my life (he talks about our future life together ALL the time, and gets mad if i talk about my future and don't include him)-- I'm 22 and this is my first serious relationship. I feel selfish for feeling this way, because i dont want to hurt him, but i need to tell him this is how i feel somehow. I want to take a break, maybe we can date other people, because neither of us have really had the chance to date other people in college and make sure that being together is what we really want. I just dont want to break up, and then end up regretting it.
Should I ask him for a break, just to figure out what I want?
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Sometimes, we think the grass is greener on the other side, it's not always true.
Have you always felt stifled by him being needy? He might love you more, but do you love him? Very rarely do both individuals love each other equally, usually one of them will love the other one more. As long as you love him, does it matter if he loves you more? Are you feeling this because you are under a lot of stress from being in a relationship and a senior? How would you feel if during the break he finds a sweet girl and they get together and get married to her?0
Whoa. I'm in almost the exact same boat. Been in a relationship with this guy for about a year and a half, he hasn't moved here for me yet but it's in the plan. He's so sweet and caring and I adore him but it's my first relationship and I feel nervous about committing fully when I haven't experienced anything else. How do I know he's the best fit if he's the only shoe I've ever tried on? (Going with a shoe analogy) so I've been wondering if I should even just go on a date with someone else out of pure curiosity because I have no experience with relationships so I don't know if I trust myself to make such a big decision with so little information to base it off of.0
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