So I met this guy during his military leave when me and some friends hung out with his friends. I wasn't attracted to him at all so I never bothered talking to him the 1st night. Days later my friends and them hung out, he asked about me. My friend gave him my number and we started just texting. He came down on his weekend off and we hung out. Then kept coming down every weekend after for the next 3 months, it was just me and my roomies so they would come (him and his friend) and just stay the weekend in our house.
Long story short, it started off as a "friends with benefits" thing and we agreed to keep it that way, since he was in the army and was going back home to Cali shortly. About 2 months passed and we caught feelings, we dated for the mean time. When the time for him to go back to Cali came we had already caught tons of feelings and agreed to keep dating and see where it goes. A year passed, we were still together.(.he would fly to Fl to see me & I would fly to Cali to see him every month or so).
Everything seemed perfect until one day out of no where he said we should go our separate ways. Prior to that he hadn't spoken to me in about 4 days which made me wonder. And that was why. This happened about 4 months ago. We agreed to just be friends. He recently admitted to still loving me but that's it, because he doesn't feel the need for a relationship. At the beginning of everything until about a month before breaking up we spoke everyday all day basically. Recently he's been ignoring me. I asked if he wanted me to just leave him alone but he said no he likes talking me..but yet he ignores me. hmm...i feel like I'm just bugging him even though he says I'm not. But if I don't talk he won't either...and its gotten to the point where he just doesn't answer even if I do talk. His and my friends all tell me that he just got scared because of how serious we were getting. I guess commitment scares him. No one expected this from him, he was or still is a super nice guy. I love him and I'm having a hard time moving on, I would love for us to work things out. what should I do? please help I'm losing it. I tried the no contact thing for a week but I gave in :(
I guess an important fact is, the topic that first broke the ice was when he told me he was from Cali, because I had plans of moving out there at the beginning of next year (2011)...I still plan on moving whether me and him fix things...so I don't know if that would help the situation a little more.
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Its hard to stay friends with and ex, you end up friends with benefits or can't get over them and move to new relationships etc. He may have met someone else, it seems more that you are having trouble geting over him...0