Should I forgive my ex girlfriend that cheated on me?

I had a relationship with my ex girlfriend for almost 6 months. Those were probably one of the most happiest time of my life. But she told me about 1 month ago after we broke up that she had cheated on me once.

She said that it was on the first month when we started dating.

She went to a club with her friends. But she said that there was a guy that kept following her, so she kept running away from him with her friend. But then her friend needed to leave early and she said that she couldn't run away from him anymore.. so she started to dance with him. Then he tried to kiss her.. she told me that she refused his tongue at first.. but then she though that it couldn't get any worse and then.. and then.. I don't know anymore..

I was too confused so I went outside.. She said that she hadn't said anything till now because she was afraid that she would lose me if she told me. It felt like she had been lying to me the whole relationship.. She texted me that she was sorry and then she really regretted about what she did.. but if she really did regret it she could just push him away or just.. leave the party.. so I don't know if I should believe her or not..

I do love her I even though that I wanted to be with her the rest of my life.. but I don't know if I could forgive her.. We broke up because we had a few problems but now we suddenly fixed those problems.. I feel really relaxed when I'm with her I still kiss and cuddle her. But I just don't know if I could start something with her again..

Updates:
Okay thanks for all the answers and comments. But i´m okay now. I made a decision to be friends with my ex for now and just look around.


But anyways thanks for the answers

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  • pppperrrsssonnnnallly, I think you should forgive her.

    in the first month of a relationship, I want to say that its fair game, with some limits. I've always thought of as soon as it hits three months, its official, and you belong to each other.

    you said that you can still be relaxed around her, and that your problems are solved.

    Shes apologized. You've thought about this alot, and you still see yourself with her for the rest of your life. The issue is...?

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    • I'm just worried that if I start something with her that I still can't get over the fact that she cheated on me.

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    • Is the answerer an idiot? "Yeah she cheated, but it was earlier in the relationship! That means nothing!" No. Just... No. You're in a relationship. You're in it. No one else. Doing that is how you get called a slut or become a whore.

    • Kay, well its not.

      she told him. that's huuuuuuuge. it takes a lot of courage to tell, so she obviously felt nothing for the random guy.

      it was early in the relationship, so it had the potential to break up very quickly, but she's been faithful since.

      i don't see what the problem is, && so I voice my opinion. no need to get your panties in a bunch,

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What Girls Said 12

  • to me, cheating isn't to be forgiven. but that's not the way God wants us to be. so it may take some time for you to forgive her at first, if you do choose to forgive her. but just because you forgive her doesn't mean you have to put yourself back into that kind of relationship with her again. I wouldn't. like you said, if she really regretted it, she wouldn't have put herself in the kind of position where it could have (and did) happen. she should have left when her friend did.

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  • Yes you should, do the mature thing. But NO MATTER what don't let her back into your heart. once a cheater always a cheater. You can't trust a cheater so be careful.

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  • Everyone makes mistakes, it whether or not we learn from them. I believe everyone deserves a second chance. As the saying goes "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." I've been on both ends of your situation at one point or another in my life, neither are easy. I had to deal with what you're going through last year, except I chose to stay with him. I saw that he was deeply sorry and hurt by what he did, and I figured that was we had was too good to lose over a 1 night stupid mistake. We've been together for over a year now, doing wonderfully. The trust was hard to gain back, but through forgiveness, hard work, and much communication we did it. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me. I really hope things go well for you two, whether it's in being friends or lovers.

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  • I think you should forgive her but still be a little cautious with the relationship. Its sounds like she is generally sorry that she cheated on you. Follow your heart and if her attitude towards you changes maybe you should end things. My advice is to maybe sit down and have a talk to her, tell her how you felt throughout all this

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  • It's up to you entirely, to decide whether or not you can fully trust her. Trust has such a large part to play in a stable relationship. I would forgive her AS LONG AS she does not repeat the behavior again and of course as long as she seemed apologetic and regretted it it the first time. If she does repeat this then you deserve better than someone who would make a habit of cheating on you.

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  • Honestly, I didn't read all what you said, but if she cheated on you, my advice is: don't forgive...

    I'm sure that you can find a loyal girl that respects you...

    You will realise in future, that she didn't deserve you anyways... (personal experience)

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    • I agree with Juliana, she cheated, call it quits, you can find someone else bro. Plus who knows what else she's kept to herself and how accurate the info she gave you was. Time to move on, you'll find someone better.

    • Question Asker: Good decision.

  • if you can let it go..If it makes you sick to your stomache and have major anxiety about it let her go..I made a mistake and didn't break up with my boyfriend and now we have a 2 month old together and he works in the same building as the girl he slept with...So I'm constantly ill about it..but it was only a month for you guys so maybe it will workout..good luck

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  • In my opinion kissing is not cheating.

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    • How would you feel if you were in a serious relationship and your boyfriend went out clubbing and madeout with another girl without you even knowing that he was at a club?

    • I'm the wrong girl to ask that question too. My boyfriend and I have a very open relationship and I have watched him as well as him watch me not only make out with others but acturally have sex with them. Sex to me is like baseball or football to others. Just no big deal and do it as much as possible because it feels good and is fun.

  • no I don't think she is worth it, you seem like a good guy and you don't deserve that. pick better quality girls

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  • Awww you seem so sweet!

    after reading this the onlly thoughts that came to my mind were..

    if she can do it once shell do it again ..why would you want anyone that has already hurt you :(

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  • honestly once a cheater always a cheater. cheaters never change they just get better at lying. x.x

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  • For the record.. been there done that.. took him back.. year and a half later.. and I found out he did it again.. :\ hahahahah.. f*** that.. once a cheater always a cheater..

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What Guys Said 11

  • If you really love her , believe she is truly sorry ,forgive her this once, only once, or it will happen again and again forever

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  • forgive her its a kiss and she was probably thinking if I kiss him he will go away and its the first month :)

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    • Nah she stayed with him the entire party..

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  • only you know if you WANT to forgive her remember it won't be a matter of LOVE but of TRUST all I can say is listen to your head (the big one and not the small one) and not your heart cause your heart will blind you to the truth sumtimes

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  • Why do you keep saying that she cheated on you? If it was just the first month of dating, weren't you seeing other people too, or did you both decide to be girlfriend and boyfriend right away?

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  • once a cheat always a cheat

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  • you don't love her. You'll understand this one day.

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  • nah dude, f*** that bitch, she's a cheater, always will be.

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  • No, no and hell no. Ignore her and move on. Don't let her play you

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  • That's up to you, but a girl cheats on me once then we are done.

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  • I would dump her sorry a$$. Infact I can't imagine ANY girl that goes clubbing would be worth marying. If you are not looking for someone to marry they it does not matter, otherwise get the F*ck out! There will be other women for you, beleive it not. Don't the the pu$y snag you into doing what you already know better than to do..

    If on the other hand you are a tramp, make her get a girl friend to have sex with the two of you then leave them both :P

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  • If you want to have sex with her yes otherwise why bother ...

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    • No. Having sex or being friends with benefits with someone who will cheat or sleep around can easily get you infected with something.

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