Most Helpful Guy
You've learned a hard but valuable lesson. You will not remain friends even if he suggests or agrees to it. Don't ever say "let's be friends" or agree to it because it won't happen. It's just how it is in the real world of dating. Once broken up get on with your life and never look back and never take an ex back
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Most Helpful Girl
Think of it this way, you guys broke up because there were things you couldn't fix. But, the worst thing you can do for yourself is pretend everything is ok and wait for him to potentially love you. Because if you continue to have feelings for him and he find someone new, that would hurt you a lot. Please focus on yourself, take time away from him, discover and build yourself, then just maybe if you fully healed without the notion of "being gf/bf" again, you can be friends or something more. Let go that you guys will be together again, because in reality if he doesn't want you, but wants to be your friend and strings you along as if nothing happened, I'm sorry he doesn't have your interest at heart. If he truly love you, he would let that go and let you heal on your own and you would too. Clearly, hanging out with him gives you stress, it hurts you and ask yourself this, is this what you want? does his interaction with you get you anywhere? Time and space will heal you, and it will suck, but that's what you need to do. That is your priority. Put as much interest in him as he does with you, and I promise you things will get better <3 Good luck! By the way, my first love was like that, except he was toxic. He wanted to be friends, but I told him that if that was the case I need to let go of the notion of us in general and maybe I could be. It helped a lot because I realized we were no longer together and that we might not even have a friendship, it got rid of a ton of strings of "Oh we can be friends and maybe more" or "This breakup isn't bad because I'm not losing a best friend". I want you to focus on yourself, not him, not anyone. Heal, cry and do all the things that will help (Don't do drastic and temporary pain relievers please). You are a beautiful, smart and strong woman. You'll get through this!