how do i fill the void i feel after a break up? how to distract from the pain? what to do with myself? how to stop feeling the heartbreak? how to move on?
Most Helpful Guy
Made an account just to answer your question. You're welcome lol. After going through my break up in November I was really devestated. To the point where I could say that it almost ruined my year. But what helps me get through is working out. After each workout you get high off your own endorphins and it immediately makes you feel better. If made a habit, you will see yourself generally a happier person and you will be pleased with a healthier lifestyle. But most of all, you'll be distracted. It is important to mourn, but distracting yourself (example being working out) will be key to getting over the hurt, and even bettering yourself as a person. Who knows, maybe you'll look that much more appealing and make your ex jealous if he ever gets the pleasure of seeing you again😉0
Most Helpful Girl
Just know that the void your feeling is normal, but it will not be forever. There's one thing I want to address is that I see a ton of people trying to "distract" themselves. But, I don't think that's healthy. As painful as it is, I want you to 100% realize that this person is no longer in your life, he is no longer your boyfriend and that right now, you are number one priority. Don't distract yourself, accept that the relationship is over and use that knowledge to rediscover things that will make you better for YOURSELF. Understand that it happens for a reason and you can BUILD YOURSELF. I don't believe in the "finding yourself", you already know who you are without that person. Rather, build your character, discover new things, take classes, hang out with old friends, go back to the things you didn't do when you were in a relationship. In terms of how to stop feeling the "heartbreak", I'm sorry but there isn't this one trick that will stop it. As everyone says below, time will heal the wounds, knowing that it's done and you've learned something will heal the wounds. You're going to have ups and down, but that's ok. You're going to cry and miss them and that's ok. This tells me that you didn't numb any of your feelings, that you're passionate and loving and willing to find someone new whether it takes you months to years to how long as you want. Heart break sucks, but you're young, it's not the end of the world, you will survive this. If anything, and this will suck so much, but whenever you start thinking of the good times, think of all the bad that was in it too, think of the reason for the breakup, think of a place without him (you happy in this place), most importantly tell yourself that it's done and he will always be in your memory as a lesson. Some people are lessons, some are blessings, in this case he was a lesson and you need to learn from that. Was this a serious relationship? Was this your first relationship? Did you break up with him or vice versa?0
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