If anyone remembers me, I'm the girl with the boyfriend ( of 8 months ) that didn't have a job or car and stays with his mom, when I met him. So he didn't talk to me for 2 days and finally he did but this text message I wasn't expecting at all.
"Samantha, I've been doing a lot of thinking these past couple days, and I'm sorry to say that I am breaking up with you. 😥😥😥 I'm sorry, but I feel like we have grown apart. I know that you thought I was the one for you, but I'm not. You deserve someone better. And I know you your are gonna find that guy that's gonna give you everything your heart desires. In all God's honesty I'm just not happy. I'm sorry for making you cry and I never wanted to hurt you, but I need to be alone and start to work on my own life I want to have my own place and car before I turn 23. I don't want to live with my mom any longer than I have to, I'm sorry if you don't understand. But I do need one big favor, please don't call me or text me or try to come visit me. I don't wanna make this any harder than it already is. Please take care of yourself Samantha, best of luck to you and your family."
He knows I don't care about him not having everything, so why is he giving up, knowing that I was always there for him. I even gave him money for food and never asked for it back.
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Well, it could be a several things. The worse one is it could just be him trying to break up in a nice way.(I don't know him so I cannot say one way or another its just one possibility). The other is having a girlfriend is expensive and he simply cannot due to his economic situation afford to be in a relationship. The third option (and I think this and the second are probably are the reason why) is that for men being a provider having a good job be successful are all part of being a man, its almost as important as actually bein biologically male to a man to be successful as this is how he can provide for a girlfriend/wife and a family. So it could be that this is embaressing him and making him depressed which could in turn make him respond the way he has, basically feeling that he needs to focus on himself and his ambition and success before he can ever truly have a serious relationship. I would actually suggest talking to him just to find out if this is the case and maybe you can work something out (if he is only 22 then I don't think he has to be that worried) but that is up to you (some times when your depressed you don't make well thought out decisions so it might be beneficial to both of you to talk either to work things out or to get closure). So that would be my guess as to why he responded the way he did (we gain purpose through utility, if we cannot contribute that is a huge blow to ego and sense of self worth. Women want to be desired men want to be useful).0
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