So, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 and a bit months and I honestly don't feel happy in the relationship. Me and him have absolutely no communication at all. All we do is send silly snaps to each other but don't actually talk. We haven't properly spoken in 2 or more days. :(. I asked if he was alright and all he did was send another stupid selfie and didn't answer my question. He's a nice lad but I honestly don't think he's a good boyfriend. I don't know how to dump him coz we don't see each other in person. So it's going to have to be over text message if j do :(. But sometimes he does make me happy but most of the time he doesn't. I kinda want him to dump me so it's easier on me. Like the last thing i wanna do is hurt him but I'm really not sure if he does love me anymore and he feels the same way as me and is scared to dump me. I would he extremely hurt if I do get dumped and I would be hurting if I dumped him because I still love him and we have had good days. I just don't know what to do anymore. This is my first proper relationship. But we've only met up twice. I really feel like I'm on my own. Can someone please help me?
Most Helpful Guy
My friend, before getting into a relationship, it's always better to be friends to get to know each other. You been in that phase enough, to know if this is gonna work or not. Sometimes in life, we need to take tough decisions. Let him know that you're not happy with this. If you have to make him take this seriously, you need to sometimes do it in a harsh way. No other way.1
Most Helpful Girl
Most relationships after the "honeymoon" period tend to get comfortable afterwards. He feels like he has got you so now he doesn't feel like he needs to put in anymore extra effort. From what your saying, he sounds extremely lazy.
You could talk to him about it and see if he will listen but I feel he will be pressured to start a conversation all the time, so reassure him you guys dont have to talk everyday (if you want to, set your standards). If talking doesn't work, actions always speak louder than words. Dont reply to anything he sends until he starts a proper conversation.
You guys should meet up more often, texting can get boring! Try calling him, facetiming him etc.4