I saw messages in one of my parents phones talking about some things that I don't really want to explain and have out here on the internet. I borrowed the phone to make a call but it opened to the messages when unlocked. I didn't look at the time of the message to know how far back they go but I know one of the more recent ones was from March 2017 so the messages are recent. But it did talk about past sex, cuddling, and possibly meeting up for 'lunch' or whatever.
But my parents have been married for over 30 years and I always thought they had a loving relationship. They never fought, always go on dates, talk all the time, cuddle on the couch... but to see one of them possibly stepping out makes me wonder if relationships are even real anymore and if I should stop trying to find a husband. I'm 27 and feel seriously betrayed and angry that they would do this to my family..
Most Helpful Guy
What do YOU do? You do NOTHING. And STAY OUT OF IT.
75-80% of all marriages suffer from some kind of affair, from one or the other or both. In many cases the other knows or suspects and can't or won't do anything about it.
It has NOTHING to do with you, so stay out of it.
If you want to sit with the suspect over coffee and ask about it you can do that, but you'll gain nothing and they're likely to deny it, defend it, or justify it. Either which way it changes nothing for you.
And yes, relationships are still real. But adults have their issues and problems, temptations and faux pas.3
Most Helpful Girl
You have to stay out of their relationship. At the very MOST, if you need to for your own sanity, tell the offending part what you saw, and tell them how it makes you feel.
but under NO circumstance, is it EVER a good idea to insert yourself into their marriage.