We had a rough break up and I've been going through hell. He has been very bitter to me and blocked me from everywhere then Something happened in my personal life and he text me asking if I was okay. I really want my best friend back but I don't know how to ask, I don't want to sound needy or stupid. He knows what I'm going through and I'm nervous for our conversation. But how should I talk to him, this is the first time we've spoken after he's been so hostile towards me
Most Helpful Guy
You don't. When you break up with someone, in most cases, your relationship with them ends. If he has strong feelings, which it seems clear that he does, then he's not going to want to be friends, because that just brings drama and stress and pain to his life that the friendship can't compensate for.
You need to forget about him, quit looking behind you (at your past), and instead turn around 180 degrees and start looking FORWARD to your FUTURE. Learn whatever lessons there were to learn from your past relationship, and don't make those mistakes again, but don't dwell in the past. Nothing good can come of that.
Part of growing up is accepting that you don't get to keep everything you once had, and relationships are definitely among those things that are often lost.0
Most Helpful Girl
I know you say youve gone through something in your life but don't use that as an excuse get him back in your life. He was most likely being civil by asking how you are. Your best bet would be to just respond with a thank you for asking, I'll be ok. And leave it at that. please focus your energy elsewhere, in front of you.1