my fiancee and I have been together for 5 years. we have been through a lot in those years. lately he has been sleeping on the couch. we haven't slept in the same bed in 2 weeks asides from sex, he doesn't bother in bed. I take Seroquil to sleep and my sleep is solid. a few days ago he tried to wake me at 3 am for sex. when I wouldn't give in, he stormed out of the room, slamming doors and cursing. when I have an opinion or complaint he says let's just go our separate ways. I feel isolated sometimes and Im a tad afraid of what will happen if I do. I hate conflict so I keep my mouth closed and sugar coat my words. worst part is he's NPD. he never sees the good in me and throws it in my face. when we fight he'll disconnect the internet and will tell me not to touch his food. I love this man so much and I feel lost without him. I feel like my whole world is upside down. I can't say he's all bad. he takes care of me in some aspects and he's loving, attentive, when it's good it's good but when it's bad it's awful. anyways, why does he insist on sleeping on the couch and no he didn't fall asleep there. calling all guys, please help me understand. our relationship is OK asides from those factors Thanks Much
Most Helpful Guy
may b you taking sleeping pills and having a solid sleep has got to something with it... may be...0
Most Helpful Girl
That is not normal and that is not okay.
I'm also hearing that he doesn't think your opinions or complaints matter. If he doesn't think your thoughts matter, he probably doesn't think you matter. When you care about someone, you care about what they think, their feelings and their problems matter to you. He also doesn't see the good in you, if he doesn't see the good in you, why would he care for you?
You also say that you feel isolated and you are afraid of what will happen. That sounds like he is emotionally abusing you. You are not only being isolated in your relationship, but when you have problems he cutting you off from the rest of the world by disconnecting the internet. In addition, it sounds like you are in an emotional roller coaster in this relationship. Actually you sound a lot like someone in an abusive relationship, "when it's good it's good but when it's bad it's awful", "our relationship is OK aside from those factors". Basically, the first comment tells me you are in an emotional roller coaster and the latter statement tells me that our relationship is OK except for when he's being emotionally abusive. Leave him.0