I ended things with a girl, back in August, 7 months ago roughly around that. I had to, it was the best for me. But I did care about her. Maybe too much, maybe at a young age, I thought I found my perfect someone. Things ended up being unhealthy and toxic. She ended up abusing me and it did hurt. Made me feel isolated and the problem now is. Even though, it been months, she comes across my mind and I want to forget about her. I really do. I don't talk to her anymore.
Should I continue not contacting her and everything will be clear, that my mind tell be clear?
I think i am getting over her, slowly and I should concentrate on myself.
Concentrate on my life.
It isn't unhealthy for my mind to be remembering. Even now at 7 pm, I want to message her but i obviously remembering the hurtful disrespectful words she said to me.
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Yes, going no contact does help many people to 'move on' and let go easier.
Which doesn't mean it'll be a walk in the park in any means. It often will involve a whole bunch of looking back on what you went through with this person, teh good times and the bad, and seeing where you (or she) went wrong.
You'll have to push aside the good times that you very well could have had and ask yourself that you don't deserve to be with someone who can abuse you and treat you so poorly and not be in the slightest been perturbed by it. Can you honestly see yourself having a lt relationship with such a person and genuinely being happy?
If not, let them go. I find that going no/contact completely tends to be the most helpful as the less you see them or reminders of them, the more emotionally removed you'll begin to grow over time. Once your emotions have settled down, you'll be able to reasonably think over everything that was wrong in this relationship and specifically what in the other individual's treatment of you was wrong and you KNOW was a sham- a toxic relationship;0
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