The other day I was at my boyfriend's house and while we were watching a movie, I got bored and reached for his phone. His phone was locked, but while I was scrolling down his messages, I came across a text message that another female sent him referring to him as "babe". I got upset and asked him who it was, he then told me that it was his cousin and she was in another country. I'm not the kind of spouse that requires the passwords to their SO cellphone, social media accounts and etc. So when I seen the message, I got upset because I trusted him. I then told him that I was done with the relationship. I'm 18 y/o & he's 25 y/o, and we recently started dating. I don't really have much experience with dating, so I'm not sure if I overeacted or if my reaction was justifiable. Am I right for reacting this way or did I overreact?
Most Helpful Guy
I have a buddy who sends texts like that, with cute terme of endearment and everything. They will occasionally contain pics of the girl he's just fucked, sometimes with his dick still inside.1
Most Helpful Girl
It isn't wrong for feeling suspicious, most cousins wouldn't call their guy cousin 'babe'. Honestly, at that point, I probably would have wanted to see the rest of the conversation, to see if he is telling the truth or not. I don't require my boyfriend's passwords or anything, but if I ever saw a text from someone I didn't recognize, I would get curious, and if I saw 'babe', then him and me are going to sit down for a talk and I would want to read the rest of that conversation, because if he lets someone else call him a term of endearment ('babe') then that relationship is probably getting too close for comfort. What cousins would call another cousin 'babe'?3