I decided to invite her out to my place to make dinner, and basically a night for her, since she is a 24 hour mother. I made it very nice, spent 6 hours making dinner, having it ready as she showed up, lights out, candles lit. You could tell she loved it. The night was perfect. That evening I asked if she was happy with how things were, if things were good seeing less of each other, she said they were great. Had sex that night, and she initiated sex right when we woke that morning, I made her breakfast before she had to go home. She was very affectionate the whole time
things had been what most people would consider a relationship, but I wasn't referring to things that way, I was trying to keep things just enjoying each other's company, not giving up. The reason for this was she had been in a marriage with a narcissist, so had some issues to overcome. A week after the last date she texted me saying she was feeling overwhelmed, that she doesn't want to hurt me, but currently just can't feel like she's falling in love, she can't be in a relationship with anyone, that she's got to break down the walls around her heart and feels bad for me to have to wait on her. It hurt, because I know she cares about me, and am certain she loves me. I have told her many times I'm not expecting her to be giving any love right now, knowing what she's dealing with, but that I'm here for support, as I know she'd do the same.
what gets to me is that each of these time have been at times things seemed great, and that she was reciprocating love. Not asking how to get her back, just wondering if anyone may be able to help me understand things