I just tried to break up with my partner of 8 years. The past three years have been terrible. He had become very emotionally abusive. We opened our relationship because he was bored, I slowly just lost all respect for him and ended up cheating on him after he decided to close the relationship. It's just a bunch of bad news. We both messed up a lot. After all this we started working on us and we improved but I don't have any romantic feelings for him anymore after everything was said and done. We are great friends and I enjoy his company. But when he tries to kiss me or anything intimate it is literally repulsive. So I decided we both deserved better than beating this dead horse. However his feelings for me are still there. I told him I didn't want a relationship with him anymore and explained that although I care about him and we have improved in many ways my feelings for him are gone. He is in denial about it. He says that he can see that I still feel for him even if I can't see it and he asked if I would go to couples therapy. I agreed because I feel maybe this will make it easier to accept? But at the same time I don't want to get his hopes up. I have been trying to muster up the courage to break things off for a while now and I really don't think it's something that can be changed. It's been years since I felt the romantic love for him that I used to feel. And I told him this. Should I just find a way to end it now or let him have the couples therapy session for the sake of all the time we have invested into our relationship?