Should we go to couples therapy?
What Guys Said 1
The therapy can't make u fall for him again. If u are able to break up with him without wanting to go back then u don't have any feelings left for him. He needs to understand that
What Girls Said 2
It sounds like couples therapy wouldn't help the repulsive feeling you have when he tries to be intimate with you. Accept that this didn't work out, and break up. Nothing is worse than being with a partner who you don't like/love/find attractive, no matter how long you've been together.
I don't think couple's therapy could help anything at this point.
If you're physically repulsed by him, I doubt therapy could help get that attraction for him back. With you both, you've gotten to the point where neither of you can offer what the other needs in the relationship anymore. If you were to go through with the therapy, you'd only be doing it to appease him, but you'd never go into it to genuinely want to repair the relationship and work on it. Right from the start, you'd only be doing it out of obligation, with no real hope or effort to repair the relationship. To me, it would be "doomed" from the start, and would end up being a waste of time for everyone.
I feel like if you were to agree and go through with the therapy, he will feel like there's still hope, and that's obviously something you said you don't want to do.
You've told him how you feel already, and I think at this point, you just need to end the relationship. I think that if you were to agree and go through with the therapy, it would be beating a dead horse, like you said. So, I'd say just end it, and hopefully he'd accept it and you could still be in each other's lives as friends.
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