Should we go to couples therapy?

I just tried to break up with my partner of 8 years. The past three years have been terrible. He had become very emotionally abusive. We opened our relationship because he was bored, I slowly just lost all respect for him and ended up cheating on him after he decided to close the relationship. It's just a bunch of bad news. We both messed up a lot. After all this we started working on us and we improved but I don't have any romantic feelings for him anymore after everything was said and done. We are great friends and I enjoy his company. But when he tries to kiss me or anything intimate it is literally repulsive. So I decided we both deserved better than beating this dead horse. However his feelings for me are still there. I told him I didn't want a relationship with him anymore and explained that although I care about him and we have improved in many ways my feelings for him are gone. He is in denial about it. He says that he can see that I still feel for him even if I can't see it and he asked if I would go to couples therapy. I agreed because I feel maybe this will make it easier to accept? But at the same time I don't want to get his hopes up. I have been trying to muster up the courage to break things off for a while now and I really don't think it's something that can be changed. It's been years since I felt the romantic love for him that I used to feel. And I told him this. Should I just find a way to end it now or let him have the couples therapy session for the sake of all the time we have invested into our relationship?
Should we go to couples therapy?
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