- Find someone elseVote A
- Cried and try to move onVote B
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Whether to try to move on (I don't cry on the outside, only feeling sad/ shitty) or to find someone else... it depends on what you're feeling at the time. I've done both.
If I was with a guy who I didn't think was "the one" or feel a serious deep connection with, and I don't feel emotionally depleted, I might just focus my energy on finding someone new. But I can only do that if I'm feeling good about myself, high energy, etc.
On the other hand, if I was with a guy that I really liked, and I felt a strong mutual connection with and we broke up (probably means that I just screwed something up), I would take time to myself to recoup. This means really focusing on myself, my goals, my happiness, and building myself back up even more. Specifically, I go to the gym more than normal, do almost daily facials, salt baths, listen to kick ass music (where the person is also inward focusing), think about all the ways I can improve myself - FOR MYSELF - and basically become as narcissistic as possible for a little while. It doesn't mean I become a bitch, it just means I re-prioritize my feelings and needs for attention to myself. It's like focusing on and re-boosting self-love for as long as it takes to feel good and whole again, and not feeling empty without someone else's love.0