I gave birth on the 11th and I haven't even let the baby daddy see him. I haven't even sent a picture or told him his name either. We were living together for 2 years, we planned this baby, he proposed then cheated on me when I was 4 months pregnant. I immediately moved out after finding out and I also discovered a secret Gmail account where he's been emailing multiple women even up to when we were just dating. I'm so hurt by this man. He played me the whole time and I fell for all of it. Am I wrong to keep his child from him? He has only given me $40 during my pregnancy in preparation for our baby but on social media he is out partying and golfing every weekend. He served me with papers for joint custody and visitation the other day. So now it's definite that I have to deal with this person till our kid is 18 😔 am I horrible to withhold information?
Most Helpful Guy
You really want to be the mother who won't allow the child to see their father?
And you're not doing it for the good of the child, you're simply not willing to put up with him because he was a bad partner. You don't know how he is as a father.
he might have been a horrible partner to you, but you have no right to already decide that he is a bad father and has no right to see his own child.
Above all else, the child has the right to see both parents.
Don't put the kid in the middle of this.6
Most Helpful Girl
You aren't horrible, just deeply hurt. It's totally understandable to feel the way you do
It's an awful situation , and I can imagine how hurt you must feel after being betrayed by him. Betrayal is excruciatingly painful, but it's wrong to keep his baby from him, just coz of the way he treated you. That's like punishing your baby , not your ex. Your child will suffer in the long- term , not your ex
He may turn out to be a great dad even though he makes a terrible boyfriend . You should at least
give him the chance to be part of his child's life. If he lets his child down then at least you'll know your child can never blame you for his father not seeing him in the future.
When your baby is older and he discovers the truth.. that you intentionally withheld him from his father , and his dad fought to see him , your child will feel the way you do now... bitter , hurt and betrayed by someone he loves and cares about... you , his mother. He may resent you for not giving his dad a chance to be there for him. Then you'll feel overwhelmed with guilt , and guilt is a heavy burden to carry
Some father's walk away and disown their kids. They don't love them enough to fight for access. At least he cares enough to fight to see his son. He obviously isn't a danger to him , so I'd try to put the hurt he caused you to one side , and give him a chance to step up and be a parent too. Not for your exes sake, but for you precious baby's.
Your son deserves the opportunity to have the love from both of his parents.1