Most Helpful Guy
You really want to be the mother who won't allow the child to see their father?
And you're not doing it for the good of the child, you're simply not willing to put up with him because he was a bad partner. You don't know how he is as a father.
he might have been a horrible partner to you, but you have no right to already decide that he is a bad father and has no right to see his own child.
Above all else, the child has the right to see both parents.
Don't put the kid in the middle of this.
Most Helpful Girl
i was the child in a messy divorce scenario. my mother was awarded sole custody, but she never stopped my sister and i from seeing bio father... he did that all on his own.
bio f and i weren't close, and visits were stressful as they often involved him trying to pit my sister and i against each other or talking shit about my my mom and (step) dad. and, when i was 18, i stopped going because i no longer wanted a relationship with him.
as far as baby daddy is concerned, he sounds like a scumbag. but whether or not to have a relationship with him is a decision your son needs to make on his own. actively preventing them from seeing each other will only cause your son to resent you, so suck it up and act like an adult for his sake.