I love my boyfriend so much and I really care about him but his mom gets really paranoid and doesn't let him hang out with me unless we are going to see a movie. he came over yesterday and apparently he lied to his mom about where he was and she found out and took away his phone. I told him that he shouldn't lie to her and as much as I hate not being able to spend time with him I still need to respect his mom and I'm pretty sure she doesn't want him to see me anymore. I'm not sure I can take any of this anymore and put more stress between him and his mom. What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
If he's an adult he needs to grow a pair of balls and assert himself.. she has not legal control over him. I'd dump him if he doesn't grow a pair.2
Most Helpful Girl
I just read in a comment that you say he's 17 years old. It's wise to just end it. if he can lie to his mom, he'll lie to anybody. Including you. Trust me, I had this happened to me before indirectly by a close friend because she was doing things she wasn't supposed to do with her boyfriend. It was a toxic relationship to begin with and it caused problems for everybody around her. She lied to her mom and her dad at one point too. Or at least tried to most of the time. You're doing right by taking this step. My advice is to just drop the relationship. He has a lot of issues as is. Don't take on more than you can handle. I doubt his mother is paranoid. I believe it's because she knows him better than you do. And he's a liar. She doesn't want him having premarital sex with you that is very clear and I agree with her on that. Again, I believe that she can't trust him. Not because of you exactly.0