He was emotionally unavailable when we started dated- lasted a month.
When I cut him off completely he's been super depressed and shows regret according to my mutual friends and claim he has changed.
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If a person is emotionally unavailable, you can't just fix it. It's not like a switch you turn on and off as you wish. In many cases it takes a therapist to find out the cause of being unable to show emotions. Right now, he wants you back and has decided he has changed. If it took less than a month the first time for you to have issues with this, you will again find yourself in the same position. People are usually on their best behavior at the beginning of a relationship. If something like this shows up that early, he needs help. I'm sure he shows regret, but that does not mean he changed. I would advise very strongly not to go back with him. You are not responsible for him hurting or being depressed, he is. You owe him nothing and should have no guilt of any kind. Lastly, I speak from having gone through the same thing. I swore I'd change and didn't. I finally had to accept that I couldn't do it alone. After spending a lot of time with a therapist, I overcame it. First, I had to understand why I had put up the wall and deal with that and then start taking down the wall. It took time and I wished I had done it much sooner. I wish you the best!