Basically me and my ex broke up two months ago due to arguing too much. We decided to stay friends.. but had a few arguments.. anyway, he asked he meet me for a drink, and was saying how much he misses me, then the next day he has a girlfriend and started being rude and nasty towards me. Is it because he still has feelings but knows we won't work so he goes for the first girl he sees. Plus he said to me he wants to move away, (we live in southampton) and funny enough his girlfriend lives in winchester.. so its like he's using her to get away.
Anyway one minute he said he still wants to talk, and now he said he doesn't want contact.
Yet he hasn't blocked me on facebook? Is he just keeping an eye on me whilst being with his new girlfriend?
He loves treating me like crap thats for sure, but he's my first love, and its difficult.
Most Helpful Guy
I never can understand why some girls continue to feel bad after losing their first love even when the guy is treating her like crap. Maybe it’s because of the way some people define “love”. Loving a person is an intense emotional attachment to them. It’s not a dependency. How could you actually love a guy that treated you like you said when love also includes kindness? If you really want to know a person look at the things he does. Not at what he says. This guy sounds like a complete jerk! What can you possibly gain … or how can you ever find happiness with a guy that says one thing and does another? No doubt you liked him a lot but for goodness sakes don’t make yourself feel committed to him just because he was your first love. If by chance you actually do love him, how can you love a guy with so little regard towards you. I’m sure you don’t like being mistreated. So don't welcome the same. You only want friends that lift you up... not knock you down. His deeds are showing he has no love for you or anything other good feelings so why don’t you just move on to much greener pastures and put this past relationship behind you. Don’t blame yourself for anything. He lies to you because talk is cheap and his talk is making excuses for his bad behavior. If I were you I’d hurry and turn myself in the opposite direction and run away from him and any lingering feelings I have for him as fast as I can. Exchange the good thoughts you still have of him into reality of what they really are and instead start thinking of making something new with your life. Something that rewarding and self-lifting. Something that starts bringing back your self-image and self-respect to the nice girl you really are where you can truly find happiness. Life is constantly making choices. Always try to make the very best choices. He will only bring you frustration and stress. You sure don’t want that. Good luck!0
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Most Helpful Girl
I know it's difficult, but if a MAN does what HE DID, it only means HE DOES NOT LOVE YOU, trust me in this.
I hate saying this and usually I'm the last person to suggest a "break up" but in this case you should close this chapter or else he will continue playing mind games with you.
If he didn't block you then YOU SHOULD DO IT, and see what happens, if he really cares he will fight for you, send him his last message, tell him that you are tired of these games and that you don't deserve to be treated this way, and tell him that you will move on and find somebody who gives you stability.
Do it, trust me, if he loves you, he will jump mountains for you.