I cheated on my wife while working out of state. I had to get an out of state job because I got laid off and couldn't find anything else, so I had to take a contracting gig.
Anyway, before I left I was feeling very down. My wife wasn't talking to me as much. She would take 30/45 mins to answer texts or return a phone call at 10at night. I felt horrible. On the weekends she began showing little interest and I began feeling very insecure. I texted a girl for a week and exchanged two dirty photos and we ended up going out to dinner, a bar and messing around.
She found out by looking at my text logs and calling that girl and found out everything. I completely stopped talking to that girl immediately and have been apologizing perfusely to my wife and expressing how regretful I am. Sending flowers, etc. She is super controlled by her dad and he brought her to a lawyer the next day to file for divorce. He moved her out of our house and back in with them. She won't have any communication with me except about the children, and it's been a month.
We have a 1 and 3 year old and it's tearing me apart that this family is ruined. What can I do to fix this? I feel like me apologizing is just annoying her now. How should I act to get her to give me another chance and get my family back?
Most Helpful Girl
Was there a reason as to why your wife was taking so long to reply bck to you? She could of been with the kids or at work. When you have kids there are plenty of things that need to be done for the next day. Did you communicate this with her? And ask her why. Its easy for you to think about yourself, but what about her needs and wants. Infidelity is a deal broker and once broken... the trust is broken. It will be hard to win her back. Giver her some space and let her think things through. You did the begging and pleading which is good. But now give her some time to think. But I dont think this was the first time that she caught you cheating. I feel it was numerous time especially with the family jumping up and egging her on to get a divorce. It sounds like you cheated on her numerous times and she got fed up1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
Do you not see the kids at all? You should be able to get some time with them. However the fact is... you cheated and she wanted to divorce you. Cheating on a spouse is a HUGE deal. Besides apologizing and doing what you did there isn't anything you can do to win her back. My best advice is just be the best father you can be to your kids and focus on that. Maybe she might see how hard you are trying with them and give you another chance. I don't know what else to tell you.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE