I recently delivered my two babies on May 5th, my babies father and I broke up 4 weeks ago and he's been in a new relationship since then. I've allowed him to stay with me and the babies in my house that he used to live in with me.. when we were out of town delivering the babies he convinced me his relationship with her was over and that he was going to focus on our babies and him and I were doing this together. He was so amazing with me the 5 days we were away, now we're back in our town and he's still in his relationship this is hard for me. I foolishly still love him and want our family but I'm not sure I can do it emotionally if he's still dating her, it's killing me.. I don't want to ask him to leave though he's amazing with our kids.. any advice?
Most Helpful Guy
This is called "tough love". Just because he's good with the babies doesn't give him permission to live with them and disregard you.
He either makes up his mind and stays with you and gives up the girlfriend, or he gets to leave the house and he can visit the babies periodically. Be strong and excessively firm on this point with him. While you're at it, set a time frame - like 2 weeks tops for him to make up his mind.
You have 2 extremely important reasons to take up your time and waiting on him to determine what he's going to do doesn't fit into your time schedule. It's going to be very difficult raising 2 children period. If he chooses to be without you, fine. That just makes that process even more difficult. But it's one you'll need all your effort to focus on. If he decides to be without you, then make every effort to get child support from him. He was "man" enough to make the kids. The very least he should do, is pay his portion of raising them too!1
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Most Helpful Girl
You don't need the stress he's bringing you. You have two beautiful babies to focus on. You should change your relationship with him as one that's friends/co-parents. It doesn't look like he's going to leave her.1