Well.. me and my ldr girlfirend just met in real life for the first time last weekend.. it was great.. we both had a great time. This week she went back to acting normal, getting on webcam every night and talking on the phone with me everynight. Then.. last night she called someone else instead but still got on webcam with me... well.. when I was waiting for her to get off the phone so I could call her, I called my guy friend.. we talked then my phone rang so I hang up on him...
I answered the phone.. she turned off her webcam and said "Please don't hate me... we have to talk.."
"about what? (voice cracking)"
"w-what about us?"
"sorry.. I'm thinking.."
"Autumn.. are you breaking up with me?"
why would she randomly break up with me!? she said she wants to be single for a little while so she can think things through or something.. but then she keeps telling me she still loves me...
I'm so confused.. if she loves me why break up with me? Why put both of us through this? She didn't seem to affected by it.. I could tell she was crying a little.. but.. Idk... we talking on IM for a little while.. I felt like I was going to cry.. but I couldn't for some reason...
The only bad thing that happend to us all week except for taht was her mom said she can't come visit... so...
She said she doesn't want to call it a break this time because she's not sure how long it will take or if she'll still feel the same about me when its over... she really loved me.. I know.. she said she wanted me to marry her.. she kept telling me how I'm The One.. and how I'm the only guy for her... how I'm her best boyfriend ever and the only one that she'd ever take home to her parents...
Why would she randomly break up with me? Does she really still love me? Do you think its possible for us to get back together when she's done thinking things through?
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Well, it sounds to me that while she liked your online/on the phone self, when she met you in real life, she decided for some reason or another (maybe your real life personality or your physical appearance) that she wasn't interested in being with you.
Online relationships are tricky like that. You can end up feeling really close to someone and having an attraction to them, but that doesn't mean the attraction is going to transfer over to real life.
For that reason, I would try not to get too involved/too serious with someone you only know online.
I think you can "fall in love" with someone you know only online, but I think it's hard to actually love someone until you've spent a significant amount of time with them in person.
I can't speak to whether or not she really loved you or if she's going to get back together with you, I can only speculate on what she was thinking, but really, I have no idea. Maybe it was simply the fact that she was told she couldn't visit you again (that makes having a relationship with you very difficult, especially if you are hoping to move your relationship to the offline world). Or maybe it was what I said before, she met you and just wasn't feeling it.0
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