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I wouldn't lend anyone that kind of money only if its a family member who is in a very troubled financial situation but with paper proof. In your case, I would call and firmly ask back or get a debt collector to do it and disregard what he thinks of it. Let him whine and get angry. He is out of your life and the majority of your money will be paid back to you. :) :)
At this point all you want is what is owed and that should be arranged without concern for a dishonorable person.
Thanks doll I'm glad you get it xx
He needed to go back for his fathers funeral and I wanted him to be able to do that. But to then not make contact to pay it back, especially after what he did while he was away, he is a dispicable person, I want NOTHING to do with. I regret the day I ever met him, just took me 4 years to work it out.Yes debt collectors will take 400 of the 2kYes he will cause me grief and make my life hell again if I do it that way. But it's my money, I lent it to him, he said he'd pay it back once he was back. The fact I had to break things off has nothing to do with the fact of what he owes me.He knew it was coming anyway as even when I lent him the money he knew I couldn't handle being with him anymore that he'd already broken me as a person and I still lent it to him.
Block his number and on social media if he bothers you afterwards. If he physically follows you, comes near your house, or threatens you a lot, file a restraining order. Pepper spray works too lol.
I hope you move on to a better man darling, there are still some left, just be more aware of early signs of any mental disorder like narcissism. <3 <3
I'm not on FB or anything like that. But he does know where I live and I live on my own. But in all fairness it's my money I'm not asking for anything out of the ordinary or uncalled for nor am I causing any drama or trouble. I honestly just want what I'm owed and was promised. I want to move on.
You definitely have the right to whats due to you. Your're intentions are good.
He's just a total ass! I honestly pity the next girl who meets/dates him, he should come with a warning.
If the money is the real issue for you then you can ask for it back but there's nothing much more you can do than ask. Without any kind of contract in place then you have little chance of enforcing repayment.If you are trying to use the debt as some kind of bargaining chip or tool of revenge then it will likely be futile.
'If' 'use the debt as some kind of bargaining chip or tool of revenge'Um are you kidding?For your information I left him. I also have in writing that he owes me the money and that he will pay me back.I also lent him the fucking money to go back to his dads funeral!
Ok. I know 2k is a lot especially in Aussie. There is also the honor involved both in being respectful and keeping your word. You really didn't say why you left him but I sense a hostile act of somekind of betrayal happened. You could do two things. 1 borrow something special of his and hold it. 2 serve him with a repo letter and demand it back. But my philosophy has always been "those borrowing money dont have money." Therefor if I loan someone money I dont expect to see it again. Nor will I loan money a second time unless the first was paid. I have been out much more than you and accepted that it was needed more and karma will someday come to me. And it has as there have been times when I was down and friends stood up for me in many ways without me even asking. Either accept that the money is gone and your good deed will someday come back to you... or worry about it by traking his every move. I say let it go but warn others in his path
I will ask for it back. If he chooses not to I’ll have no choice to move on.
Nothing. That's how much I spend on a pair of shoes. She can keep the $2k if she wants, I don't have the time/patience to be fighting over money.
I do not want to fight over money either, there is no need to fight, what's right is right? I lent you the money so you could go home to your fathers funeral, you said you'd pay it back, you haven't. So you pay it back. No fight necessary, its what you owe, it's in black and white print as proof as evidence as well.
if you offer to take him to court (with paper) you'll get it back pretty fast. Source: Personal Experience
Doesn't that in turn cost money?
not really more than $50
Where are you from?
I won't ask it back. it is less than 1 months salary in USA.
2k is not chump change my friend. Don't be silly and pretend it is.So your saying you'll go to the bank get a bag of cask 2 k and light it on fire as it's no big deal. Bs absolute bs!Pay what you say your going to. Be a man. Hold your word. I'm not a bank. I'm not your girlfriend. The debt collectors will get it from him then. I want nothing to do with him. He's a weak excuse of a human.
Thanks for calling me friend. If you want the money back , you have full right to do what you wish to do. Money is important. And how you think about money is more important too. So go with your line of thinking. Start saying money too. And next time don't give easy money to persons like him , if such people make if difficult for you to get your money back.
He was my partner of nearly 4 years, I loved and cared for him and he was in a hard place, I would have done anything to help him, he needed to go back to the UK to his dads funeral and I wanted to help him.What I didn't expect was for him to turn around and do what he did. And me have to break it off. In turn he used that money to hurt me and therefore not give it back.Regardless of our relationship ending he shouldn't keep the money I kindly and generously lent to him. That is just cruel and nasty. But it just shows the kind of person he is, has been for the term of our relationship and shows why I had to end it.I've moved on. I do not love or want him anymore. My heart has moved on and is mending. But it cannot fully mend until he gives me what he owes me. As it's just not right. He owes me a lot more from other instances but they do not matter as they are irrelevant, but in this case it is, he said when he got back he would 100000% give me the money back, he promised me.
If pains me more not because of the money but because he cheated you in love and in his deeds. $ 2000 may not be a big thing for him to return back to you , but he wants you to suffer because he is not happy without you. I forgot to ask you---who broke of the relationship?
I earn more money than him, 2k is a lot of money to him as well as me. But it's not JUST about the money, its the underlying matter behind it.He has ALWAYS known what to do and how to hurt me, so this is just another way to do so even after we are not together anymore.I've been going through the thoughts over n over the last three months of just forgetting about the money it's not even worth it as he will think I still care, that he has something over me, that he still Yass hold over me, and in his self obsessedhead he'll believe I'll still want him. IN HIS DREAMS. I'll NEVERgo back. I'd rather die than be with him.I called it off. He ruined my life. He ruined the person I was.
Now , you need to see how you can bring your life back. How do the debt recovery agents operate. How much will they charge you. I hope , the fees will not be more than what he owes you.
They take 20% so that is $400. But they also do no recovery no fee.I don't know how he is going to react to doing this.He is very temperamental and volatile
Does he belong to your same country?
No he is on a student visa
One confusing question I have on my mind is this----"If he agrees to give you the money in person without involving the agents , will you accept his offer and meet him in person or do you don't want to see his face at all' ?
Nope I will not agree to meet him. There is no reason for him and I to meet. It's 2k he can't give it in cash, it would have to be bank transferred so there is absolutely no reason what so ever to justify us meeting.
Does Federal Bank rules restrict cash payments over a certain limit in USA?
I'm in Australia, as is he, unfortunately. And no not that I'm aware of.
ask him back telling him you need them in some emergency
I honestly don't want to even speak to him.I'm thinking of getting debt collects involved. I want nothing to do with the guy. But I do want my money back.
sell his debt to someone at discount 😂
A debt collection agency will take it but at 20% of the debt.But what I know of him is it will start a war. That's the type of person he is. He will be pissed off at me. But he has left me with no choice. He's not made any attempt in now 3 months to contact me to get my bank details to pay it back.
ask your frnd whom he dosnt know to flirt with him, and trick him to return you money. beware he dosnt come to know about it
The only ways is I either ask for it back and look and feel a fool, which I'd rather die than do. Get a debt collector to do and they will take $400. or just forget it and learn my lesson never lend fuckers money.
listen at least you will get 1600 buck back when you sell it to debt collection agency.. and let him get pissed at you.. why does it matter you already sperated from him so what he think of you dosent matter now... so be confident and sell your debt to agency and at least get back your 1600 bucks back
Because he can be very scary and volatile, he will blame me, not his own actions, he has never once taken responsibility for anything.
let him be. he is out of your life leg debt agency mange him. don't get sacred of him , be strong enough.
Oh trust me I've let him be this time. Not a single contact at all. I've zero interest in him or his life. Zero.But I feel once this money is dealt with it's my final thing tying me to him. I'll be completely free
don't worry you will get you money back just sell it to debt agency and be confident he can't do anything to you 😉
tell him if he don't file a complaint.. he should know 2k is not a small thing..
Thank fuck someone finally gets it. 2k is not a small amount at all.I lent it to him so he could go back to his dads funeral as well.I don't want to be with him, I don't want to cause trouble, I don't want anything bar what he said he would give back which is my money.2k is a lot of money!
all the best.. hope he returns it..
Thank you xxLast time I ever help out a guy
I think I would be able to "convince" them to give it back
Agree. But it’s a control and power thing.
Good luck with getting your 2k back.
I'm going to get debt collectors involved. I'm sick of this shit. It was a loan. He said he'd pay it back. I'm not a bank. Nor his girlfriend anymore. Do what your word said. Be a fucking man for once. I don't want to talk to him, be in contact, or Nything to do with him, but I want my money, so debt collects it is. Fuk him.
use it for cremation services
Haha I wish. There's only two people that have hurt me this much in life, one being my sister and the other him. Two pure evil people. That I let hurt me over and over for too many years before finally saying I don't deserve it and I need you out of my life.Both usedme for money amongst other things as well!
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