Now does saying 'Hey, can we talk' sound okay?
and then somewhere into the conversation saying ' I'm sorry for the past, and for being immature when we were together and emotional' Will that make any difference? See he was my bestfriend for years prior to dating and we were together a long time, and we want to be in each other's lives, I want him to back right now because I'm hurting but he said only in the future bc I stress him out.. which is unfair as he broke up with me by just blocking me and cut me off completely, I didn't even know we broke up until a week later..
Most Helpful Guy
Striking a conversation with that is ok. Sounds like he was pretty overloaded with your previous style, happened to me too and I reacted the same way to prevent unreasonable chaos coming to me and deal with it while it was just the comfort of my ex to go this way. It is unfair. So if you say sorry for that, thats a thing. I you can keep yourself from turning again into that, that is the important part and the bargain chip. Very important. He doesn't want the stuff that comes from being close to you... any hurt you feel. So if you feel strong and able to lead through the conversations, do it, but better to not be unprepared for a rejection. He was hurt a long time, and he has the right to do it. Maybe just for a relatively big pause, but he knows he wants to manage it.
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Most Helpful Girl
Personally, I would give it some more time with no contact. But if you insist on talking I suggest writing someone that shows more confidence and less weakness or emotion. You want to make him want to talk to you not be afraid of being faced with drama and emotion.
You could imply ask if he'd like to go for a drink to catch up but I would definitely give it some more time.