I've been with my boyfriend almost a year. Im certain he loves me, and i love him back.
He's my first everything, and i know he adores me.
But he barely calls me, and we only get to see each other once a week.
But it's not the lack of calls which gets to me, its the lack of deep conversation we have in person and in text. I know it seems silly, but I'm such a deep soul i feel something is missing because of that.
Everything else is great about him, he genuinely very loving, kind and has a great heart, he would never intentionally hurt me etc.
But we just dont speak deeply, everything feels like small talk all the time.
I've mentioned this before and he just says he's quiet or he will try harder, or insists i just start up a topic on the spot, and when i do he barely responds.
Is this a silly reason to break up with someone? am i being ungrateful for what i have?
Part of me thinks what happens if i do meet someone i can speak with deeply...
Most Helpful Guy
Ever thought he might find it hard to know what to say? If you feel like that and know he does then you are definitely silly thinking of wanting more as loyalty and love is a rare thing these days
Most Helpful Girl
I wouldn't blame you for breaking up with him over that to be honest. I also love having deep conversations with people and I don't think any relationship I was in would work out if the guy wasn't into having deep conversations with me. I've even ended friendships (not outright, just gradually started becoming more distant...) over lack of deep conversations. So I know how you feel and you have every right to want more.