Dude and I meet. After our first date (which lasted until 3.30am just talking) we saw each other every day for 4 days. The next week-end we spent together (OK, not the best idea, granted). After that we both took a step back (especially him) since, as he put it, he was scared that he didn't get scared after all that time together. I'm been temporarily transferred out of town until the end of next month and instead of writing/texting every day, we talk about once a week. I've come with three possible answers of why...but maybe there are more? Guys, honestly here, please. (1) He's scared and wants to slow things down since they were progressing WAY too fast (he's been torched in the past by an ex-wife and ex-girlfriend (2) He's changed his mind and thinks of me just as a friend (but has never said so) (3) he's just not that in to me (but still continues to keep in touch regularly). Any other ideas?
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They string you along keep you in the loop - so they can come back to you when the latest girl turns out to be a dud... Or - he comes back to you knowing you'll have sex with him and use you for what he can get out of you. He's not serious about you. I would keep a LOT of distance between the two of you. I used to be engaged to a guy like this. 4 yrs. He did this to me ALL the time. ... He was shopping for a better deal but keeping me on the side. I was a great girlfriend but there are guys who want their cake and to eat it, too. Which one are you? Angelfood? Chocolate? Honey, kick him to the curb if you're smart. Lose guys like this. They are nothing but PLAYERS. Good luck.1