... this is mostly for the ladies, but also for guys (who have cheated on their girlfriend(s) before in the past).
-* ladies, have you ever been cheated on? if so, how did you find out and how many times had your partner cheated on you before you finally knew? ... did you have that whole intuition/gut feeling thing you couldn't get rid of, or were you completely taken by surprise? did your partner get caught up by being stupid (lying about where they were, text messages etc)? what were some signs/red flags that you noticed? .. and most importantly, and I know this is going to probably be a dumb question but I genuinely want to know (because I think I've been cheated on but am not 100%), how did you feel?
-* and for the guys, if you have cheated on your girlfriend (or ones in the past), what was your REASON for doing so? was it because your current girlfriend wasn't "good enough"? .. was she not doing something (sexually or emotionally) that you felt needed to be done so you had to go elsewhere for it? did you feel guilty about it or was it something you didn't think twice about? was the girl you cheated on your partner with someone you knew (a friend) or someone random (one night stand style)? and most importantly, what were some of the signs you showed that you were cheating (like did you act/dress differently, were you less interested in sex, were you more protective/secretive about her looking in your phone,did you pick more fights etc)?
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Yes, I have been cheated on. This is an extremely long question but I will simply reply
that when your stomach feels like it's in a big knot - something does NOT feel right - you sense something is wrong, you are usually right 99% of the time. A cheating guy will treat you differently than he did when he was focused on you. ONCE should be enough. Do NOT count how many times he did it. ONCE is plenty! People don't cheat because of something you did/didn't do - they cheat because they have no integrity, are liars, sneaky, disrespectful, and do not deserve your time. It is not about how good looking the other girl was. If he wanted to date someone else - he would TELL YOU ( if he had any honor) instead of sneaking around behind your back. They lie - don't return your phone calls very fast, if ever - they are not very attentive to you ( maybe ignore you for days at a time) - don't make you feel special, start to criticize you until you feel that you can't do anything right - don't make plans with you anymore - keep answers short - don't compliment you... Do you get my drift? They are no longer interested.. IF he is a player...that is a different story. He is still a cheat - but he will still tell you a bunch of b.s. to keep you around until you catch him. Best test is to figure out if what you're feeling is good. If not? LOSE HIM.. AND DO NOT LOOK BACK.0