One of my exes keeps trying to get back with me, we've tried 3 times and he doesn't change I'll give you a glimpse to see what I'm working with, he's very self absorbed like he only wants to talk about himself. If I talk he wanders off or keeps looking at his phone. Two, he's grotesquely obese... like so obese he can't even talk without getting winded. When I first got with him he was maybe 370 pounds. Now after two years working in IT he's ballooned up to 520-550 I'm guessing. He refuses to go on walks with me. Well anyways. I lied to him and told him I was talking to some guy in California so he will leave me alone is that mean of me to lie to him? I was just trying to avoid being mean but I can't help it. He even smells so bad now. He's been married 2 times before as well.