Been with this man for 3 years. We used condoms but stopped after 1 year. We do not live together, so about a month ago I was over at his place after 2 week holiday. He gives me a mild peck and is acting a bit erratic. He offers a massage and takes out some gel from the bedside drawer. I'm thinking "where did he get that?", so I say "let me do you", and take the bottle to see it's a lady stimulating gel he used to use on me. So afterwards, I put it back in his drawer and see he has a bunch of the condoms that I think we used to use all scattered. At this point I'm not sure what to think so I decide to count the condoms and then put in a ziplock bag push it to the back of the drawer. A few weeks later I am back at his place and he again is acting weird, so I take a peek at the drawer and the bag is wide open at the front of the drawer and there are condoms missing. I quietly took the bag, made an excuse to leave and now don't know how to confront him. He cheated on his ex-wife (the reason they are divorcing), and he is a person with a short attention span always getting bored, but I told him I wouldn't be tolerant to cheating and that he should just tell me if he wants to see others. Is he cheating and how should I confront him? It's been 4 days so not sure he's seen the condoms missing.
Most Helpful Guy
You knew he cheated on his ex-wife when they were married. Why did you think he wouldn't cheat on you?11
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If you know he has cheated in the past and has not said he's made an effort to change-then yes, likely cheating. Why have condoms or buy them if you don't use them with the one girl you are only supposed to be having sex with. Similar thing happened to me. We stopped using condoms after a month though because I went on birth control right away. I thought he was only having sex with me. One day, I saw condoms on top of his dresser. I found it odd since we stopped using them months ago. Last month, after two years together I found out he has been cheating. Now I know why he had condoms. One time he told me that bjs don't feel the same with a condom doesn't feel anything. I asked whats the point then?1