For years I never thought of my ex. Then all of a sudden, I've thought about him every day for 3 months. We finally spoke and things were going great UNTIL I ruined it all. We dated for a few years. We both live great lives now. I ruined it by texting him to say that I never got closure from our breakup, that I was devastated by how he acted after the break up. Our texts before that were just fine. Who texts their ex this after breaking up 10 years ago! The thing that kills me most is Im way better than that person who let her feelings show. My life is so great, Im happy, great job, yet I let my emotions get the best of me? How does he feel now? I texted him the other day and he didn't answer. Im not going to contact him anymore. Do you think if things were going okay at first and then I scared him away, that months or years down the road, he will be ok to talk to me again? I truly love him and am not sure how to redeem myself after I let my emotions get the best of me. I didn't do any crazy texting or calling, I just feel like I scared him away by bringing up the breakup. I know men dont do well with women talking about their feelings. No contact for 6-8 months should be enough before I reach out again? Every 5 or 6 years we talk like friends but this time our breakup was mentioned. We dated for years so I dont think all is lost is it?