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Well, maybe it's better to leave things the way they are and try to move on. If he was determined to break up, I don't think there's much you can do, unfortunately.
I feel like he was being pressured into by his friends and family. Do u think he could change his mind
Well, if he was being pressured and did it to relieve the pressure, then yes, I think he could change his mind. Give him time though, but not too much or things may get even colder.
Hmm, how much time do you think. Would it be too much for me to turn upto his house baring in mind he lives with his family and I have never met them but have spoken to on several occasions
I'm not sure, time enough for him to miss you. How long do you think it will be? I think you shouldn't just show up there if his family doesn't like you... only if there's no other way. I mean, you never met them but if they figure out that it's you things could get worse.
I'm thinking a week but I don't want to leave it too late. Hmm I don't know, me and his family shared a good relationship and his mum still messages me after the break up and tells me she cares about me and my feelings. It's just the whole religion thing that is coming in the way.
Oh, then you can show up. I thought that your relationship with them was tense. Yeah, too bad that religious matters still interfere. If this is the reason, then I think that there's a good chance of him wanting you back.
even if you get him back it's not to be that the same.
I think it would be the same as long as we cleared things. It's only been four days but I want the situation dealt with sooner rather than later
I wish you luck. Tc
Thank you xxx
How do you do what? As much as this will hurt you and make you want to slap the fuck out of me, he's done with you. For whatever reason he's not coming back. He's not thinking of you, nothing. Gone! How do I know? Its not new. My last girlfriend text me, very sad way to... Anyway she had the fuk audacity to come in with a guy who used to work "for me" and he said he was surprised to hear that we broke up a couple YEARS AGO! I said no, it was last week. But don't worry, you'll get used to all the lying. He was out of there so quick... My point is go out with your friends, confide with your best friend and do what's best for you. You can't do anything to make him come back. Broken hearts heal. Yours will too.
just a waiting game, wait til the situation settles a bit, it sucks, but in the long run its better to cool things down before trying to fix something that isn't fixable right now.
We used to argue an awful lot always due to a third person but never between ourselves. We planned everything together, we're involved with one another's families. How long do you think I should allow before contacting him?
3 days, a week at most. if he's not responding by then, then just blow him up. I don't know the whole situation, but after a week, he just needs to grow uo and give you closer and/or opening up to what happen.
I was thinking of going to his house but he lives in a different city to me. Do you think I would come across as psycho if I did this
depends on what you do. if you start breaking windows and keying his car then yeah, but if you just simply knock amd try to reason with him then no.
lol I was just thinking of going and asking to speak to him. He lives with all his family so I think they would have something to say about it
maybe, maybe not. i know you want to go and do everything you can for this to work out, i feel you, but if you go then go if you dont then dont. doesn't hurt if you try
Hmm true. Slightly nervous lol..
its okay to be, relationships are like a guess game, you're so scared fo make the wrong move, buy eventually you'll have to move, if you dont you'll lose the game
Take some time or things cool down and then talk with him. If he hasn't changed his mind, don't beg :( it's hard but try moving on
I don't feel like I can move on. Literally 2days before he broke up with me he was telling me I'm going to be his wife and how much he loves me. Just can't get my head around the whole situation
Wait a day for things to calm down a bit and call him tell him you want to talk or know what happened what made him change his mind so sudden but try not to cry try to be calm... guys... well we hate drama and hate to see you or make you cry.
He's said it's due to the fact that we are different religions and his family would not accept this. When I spoke to his mum about this, she said it would be difficult but she doesn't believe this is the whole reason behind the break up. He is refusing to meet up with me, I just want him in front of me so I can speak the situation through with him
Sounds like he has made up his mind... Having him infront won't solve anything. I know you love him but religions and beliefs sometimes ruin relationships. Not sure how to help you on this one. Sorry :(
Do you think if I gave it a couple of days and then tried to approach him once the situation has calmed down he would speak to me more openly
It might help but I think g might be getting pressured by his family. If religion is the reason why g broke up with you it might be his family pressuring him to do so and find someone with the same beliefs... But if you want.. wait it out and text him or call him if he doesn't reply or you sense that he's still with the same mind set then it's not worth trying to reach him anymore... he won't change
Ahhh it's just so frustrating because we loved one another so much
Love is atheist... :)
Get him to see you in person. You'll have him in your hand.
How can I get him to do so when he keeps refusing as he said he cannot see me upset. All I want is for him to see me so we can speak things through in person.
That's why he doesn't want to see you. Cause he won't be able to break up, so if you can get him to see you, you'll have him back no problem.
This is such a mind game, I can't cope
If he doesn't see you the feelings go away quicker. That's how guys get out of relationships easy. .
Yes I know but I just need to find a way to get him to see me. Can feelings go away quick if you've been with someone for three years
It depends, I've done it before but I've never been in a 3 yr relationship before.Seducing him is your best bet to get him in front of you.
Hmmm, I'll have to see how things go x
Did he break up with you over phone?
It was over FaceTime and he was crying as he said that we could not be together anymore. He just said everything had gone too far and then later after me constantly calling and messaging he said it was due to us being different religions and that his family had an issue with it. I have spoken to his mother and she has not said that we cannot be together but has said it would be difficult. I think the arguing just got too much but it was never something we could not sort out.
Oh... the dreaded religion conflict... that's ridiculous. :/
He knew from the get go, I didn't hide anything
I wouldn't have let it get that far if I knew it wasn't going to end well. That is really a shame. :(
How? He doesn't reply to messages or calls
did you try seducing him?
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