I caught them on date. We separated for over a year. During that year she said she wanted a divorce and that it was over. She continued to see HIM and I became depressed and suicidel. I met a woman at work and we quickly became friends. We had so much in common and did everything together. She wouldn't leave my side when I was suicidal but wife refused to talk to me. This woman that I met made me feel alive again. We have so much in common and such great chemistry. After about 15 months I had finally allowed myself to move on from my wife and get on with my life. The woman I met from work and I made plans to move in together when suddenly my wife had a change of heart. My wife and have 3 kids and I felt I owed it to my marriage and my children to go home. My wife insisted I quit my job because of HER so I did. It's been a year but and all I do is miss the woman from work. I'm not happy. My wife and I have never shared the same interests we married because we got pregnant. We are parents nothing more. Sure we share a laugh but we don't go out together, she doesn't like sports I love sports I mean we do nothing together. Most evening she's in the bedroom watching cooking shows and I'm in the living room doing my thing. I feel she thinks this is ok because her parents have the same type of marriage. Hell I've never seen her parents kiss or hold hands in the 20 years I've known them. I guess having met the women from work and feeling that chemistry and love I'm asking if it's selfish of me as parent to leave my children's mother to be happy with someone else?
Most Helpful Girl
I can say this from the perspective of myself: a kid who's parents stayed together only for the kids.
I felt awful knowing my parents didn't want to be with one another. There was constant arguments and fights and life itself was unpleasant to the extreme.
Your unhappiness will affect your kids. You will only teach them to stay in a situation what is unhealthy.
Do not do this. You hurt yourself and everyone else around you when you make your own life miserable.3
Most Helpful Guy
I would have taken the woman from work.
I don't like the sound of your wife coming around again. It sounds like she and the other guy split, so she needed a familiar fallback (you). It sounds like if the divorce went through and she had to try to sustain herself she probably wouldn't have been able to do it on her own.
It doesn't sound like she is putting 100% into you or the marriage, and it takes two to tango. She was already cheating on you, and was fully prepared to call it quits.