We dated for more than a year and the first time he cheated on me was about a month or so into our relationship. I still took him back regardless..maybe it was wrong of me but I did then. Earlier this year we broke up because he wasn't sure how he was feeling and I mean months after that we still hung out because we still loved each other. I went overseas in February and I told him that if he met someone t hat he tell me. Towards the last week of my trip I told him that I loved it there so much that I wanted to live there (it was a clear exaggeration) but he took it the wrong way and went and hooked up. Now I know you don't consider that cheating but he knew how we felt about each other. So I thought it would've meant something considering he promised he wouldn't do anything. Well when I got back he told me what happened and we haven't gone back together since. However, since he has told me what had happened he has been wanting to get back together but I don't. He's been trying to convince me everyday since the day he's told me. But it hurts too much now and I don't deserve this kind of treatment. It's like he is trying to control me. He goes to the same college as me and is in most of my classes. He said he's not going to stop till we are back together again. I still love him but I want to get over him so I can move on. What do I do if he doesn't accept or respect my decisions?
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how old is this guy? Well he obviously is a dumbf*** by making is obvious.
I will admit I once pursued a girl endlessly in college. I was young and dumb. I would never hurt her...but in retrospect I was not proud of by behavior. I was addicted to her at a chemical level. She never told me to STOP, ever. Not even her Boyfriend who I knew pretty well. It took me a long time to get over her. I still think about her today at that was 7 years ago.
You need to call and tell him over the phone NO. Say you wish the best for him but it's not going to happen. Tell him you want to handle this civilly and not involve anybody else. I understand you have feelings still so you are trying to be "nice". But what girls don't understand is that most guys, especially younger guys take "nice" as "I am still attracted to you".
Do NOT be nice to him. Don't be a bitch, but be firm and direct. If you aren't these things he will think he can accomplish his goal.
I hate to say it, but I know what's its like to be attracted to a girl at a irrational level. It's like being attracted to a drug. You can't automatically will yourself to get over it.
If all else fails get a restraining order.1