I have a guy best friend of 9-10 years, he had a crush on me from day 1. I see him no more than a brother you gonna say I'm selfish but I really really tried for years to like him back but I failed I just can't see him as my husband/boyfriend there's no spark no attraction of any sort. I tried my hardest.
I've always known but last year or 2 years ago he confited that he is extremely and deeply in love with me and it's getting worse.. he even yesterday asked me out I didn't respond. I really want to tell him id shatter his heart to pieces and he's been always there for me so to be the source of pain is just taunting.
Thank you for reading and looking forward to see your help.
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You don't really have a choice in this. You can't ignore facing him and letting him know you love having him as a friend, but any more than that isn't going to happen. You could tell him you didn't want to hurt his feelings by telling him this before because you felt he would stop feeling like he did/does. Tell him you are sorry if you are hurting him, but that you just don't have feelings for him in a romantic way. Make sure you tell him that it's nothing personal, just that we don't get a romantic interest in everybody. Don't tell him you tried to like him. That may make him mad. The bottom line is that you allowed him to feel this way and to want you with the hope that you would come around to what he wants. Every decision has consequences and in this case, yours are no fun, but something you must do. Don't make him aware by ignoring him. That's cruel and, I assume, you don't want to be that person. You need show that your friendship is something you want to continue. By ignoring him, you are saying nothing about him is important to you. He deserves to know and you must deal with whatever the outcome might be. Consider this one of many tough life lessons. There are many. I hope it goes well for you.1