Pew Research surveys found that most men, and more men than women, believe that women should be stay-at-home moms while the kid is young.
This involves sacrificing her own career progress whIle hastening the career progress of her husband - since he doesn't have to do the unpaid labor around the house and for the kid, he is able to go back to school and/or progress more quickly in his career and gain more experience, enabling him access to more and better jobs & pay in the future.
Meanwhile her own economic progress is hindered. This is why alimony exists. To balance out that inequality. Since her labor contributed substantially to his economic progress while hindering her own, it'd be unfair not to balance that out.
Yet most men on here say they don't think alimony or even division of assets should exist, and therefore that women's unpaid labor should count for nothing.
"But it's her choice!" People get compensated for their choices all the time. For example I don't think anyone would say it's unnecessary for the man to get paid for his job just because he chose to do the job.
"Her compensation is getting to live in the house!" But that ends after the divorce, meanwhile his economic advantage positively impacts him the rest of his life, so that's still unequal.
- I agree with you. alimony should exist for that reason (the woman helped the man's economic progress at the expense of her own)
- I agree that alimony should exist, for another reason
- no, alimony shouldn't exist. it's justified for men to expect women to help advance their careers while ensuring no financial compensation
- no, alimony shouldn't exist. I admit I'm a hypocrite
- i don't know
Most Helpful Guy
"This involves sacrificing her own career progress whIle hastening the career progress of her husband - since he doesn't have to do the unpaid labor around the house and for the kid" - These are all terms that not all men make, and that women CHOOSE to accept. She doesn't have If she spent a lot of time on her career before getting married. If abortion is legal, women are free to marry who they want, and there are laws that require them to be paid equally (ones that actually work that is), then it doesn't make sense to have alimony. Alimony should only exist if women have an inherent disadvantage or lack of choice in terms of how they get by.
Funny thing though my co-worker (female) is getting divorced at the moment and the state is actually trying to get her to give money to her soon to be former husband, because he spent his 401k account and they want to redistribute some of hers to him. Sounds fucked up.
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Most Helpful Girl
I'm kind of half and half... I fully believe and live by the standard that all adults should be (or at least be capable of being) self sufficient financially. Until there are children involved there is no need for a wife to not have a job in my opinion, so she should have some career aspirations and income up until that point.
If it was agreed by both parents at the time of having children that she would take time off; that's where alimony should be calculated from. If she had no career to advance from on her own steam before the joint life choices such as children then she shouldn't be entitled to claim monetary compensation when she didn't earn anything when she could.
Still, every family is going to have different views on money