need ideas to get over initial pain. usually , i know how to deal with anything but for some reason I forgot how. what do you do to deal with the pain?
Most Helpful Guy
I think first of all hide all their stuff on social media (dont block them thats just stupid and childish), chuck out any pics/items that you have strong memories/remind you of the person, if they gave you something valuable sell. Delete all the tracks that you used to listen to together and dont go to the places that you used to visit with the person.
Now you have gotten rid of the triggers its time to get rid of the feeling inside you:
dont just sit on the sofa feeling sorry for yourself and eating ice cream like they do in shitty teen movies, push yourself to the very edge doing sport/workouts to distract yourself when its hurting the most and it will tire you out so you can sleep better, when you put your body under extreme pressure it just kicks into survival mode and pushes away all the irrelevant stuff, also it releases endorphins which should make you feel better and relax.
Go meet up with mates and maybe even go out and get with new people, the best way to get over someone is to get with new people, show yourself you can do better and that "THAT AMAZING PERSON" was not the only person you can fall in love with on the planet, yea it might seem stupid to try and replace them and yea the first few weeks you are probably gonna think yea but they aren't as good as the person I was with, but at least it will show you that you can get with other people and take your mind off your ex also it should make it less likely that you start texting them.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I know the feels. I am about 4 months post breakup. Initially I allowed myself to cry and be depressed. It is important to grieve. Keep yourself as busy as possible. This is the secret. Plan your day in advance. Force yourself to get out of the house and meet friends for dinner. Exhaust yourself so that by the time you have to sleep you are so tired. Start planning goals too. Pick short term goals to work on.1