Honestly- the breakup was abrupt. We never fought. We did have some deeper conversations that were emotional and did focus on our needs in a relationship, but I never felt we were mean or cruel. The day he broke up with me, he was definitely acting distant. I met his whole family that day, & was friendly despite his behavior. When we were alone I asked if he was okay and he said that he was trying to figure things out between us. I thought he was going to break up with me, so I told him just to do it. He got angry and said that wasn't even on radar. well, 30 minutes later and I get my heartbroken.
Post Breakup now- He wants to be friends and was actually pretty frustrated when I told him that I need time to work through my pain. He felt it was "low" of me to say how I can't be friends right now, but he wouldn't admit that it hurt him somehow (by the loss of me). He got upset and said how he's hurting too and I am not seeing that, but if I need to be angry to heal then that's fine.
Anyways, I had blocked him everywhere out of frustration for his lack of empathy for me "the dumpee." I came around and text him saying how I yet again, know why we can't be together romantically but do care about him as a friend and hope we can make amends. He was very defensive and mentioned how I had blocked him... etc... and how I act like he never wants to see me again. I accepted this a truth, and thought we were good, but I sent him a link to a comedian he likes and he just read it and didn't reply.