He dumped me after a year because I brought up these issues and he didn't want to work on them so he ghosted me. A month later he's dating his coworker but it only lasted a week. 3 months after that we get back together. I know it wasn't the smartest on my end, but being without him pained me so much that I felt I had to have him back and was hopeful he changed. At first everything was great and I saw hope but then he went back down the same emotionally abusive path and I made excuses for him again because I was so scared of getting hurt again from getting dumped.
8 months later, it worsens. The bad in him returned. He was always selfish and always told me he planned eventually moving to the opposite coast for his unrealistic career with or without me and refused a compromise. He is about to move 4 hours away in a month for school and I don't see it being easy considering we can barely get along now. This all hit me one day that I had to take a step back and realize I am settling for something I don't deserve. I'm staying because I am so comfortable and have learned to just deal with it.
So, I call him to break up. It was amicable and to my surprise he took it really well and was nice. He said great things about me and even said he didn't see himself dating again because he wants to dedicate his time to himself and that he felt he couldn't date again after me. I know it's for the best. I was in an empty, unhealthy relationship. We both want different things and I have learned to accept that it wouldn't work. I will always feel strongly for him because he was my first love and taught me so much. If I know it isn't meant to be and I'm free of this, shouldn't I be happy? Why am I so sad?
Most Helpful Guy
It's quite normal to be sad after a break-up even if you're the one who initiated it. There's an empty hole inside you that isn't simply gonna be filled through logic or reasoning just because you know it was the right decision.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
You're sad because you loved him. It's normal, however, it won't last.
If he was a shitbag most of the time, imagine how a sweet respectful guy can make you feel. I'm 21, and my boyfriend is 25 as well! So I put myself in your shoes.
It's not worth it if he was an asshole. We all deserve someone sweet and kind!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE