I was in a relationship at 14, it was my first relationship and it got serious fast. It didn't last long and he ended it. I was so hurt I remember all I did was cry myself to sleep for about 6 months after. I think it was because I was so young and naive and let myself fall so easily. I'm now 18 and in my current relationships I have trouble with commitment and am constantly wondering whether I even love them or have feelings for them. Its so confusing because what if I never have feelings for someone, I will never be happy and I'll always be wanting to end the relationship.
Is it possible that my bad experience has made me emotionally block people out or is it just because I haven't met the right person?
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18 is still considered young by a lot of people... But to answer your question.. We have all suffered a broken heart by a relationship that did not work out. What you do is learn from that relatinship - and do not make the same mistakes again. You move on to the next one when you are ready. Never jump back in too fast - then you don't take necessary time to reflect about things and what you did to contribute to the "failure"... I prefer to think of them as learning experiences.. Life lessons. OK? Yes, you will be happy... The trick is to find the right one for YOU. You most likely will suffer another broken heart - but don't focus on that -- Focus on the joy the relationship DOES bring you... Don't let that fear paralyze you. Just be aware. My advice to you? Don't commit.. Why put that pressure on yourself when you don't feel ready? Who is making you? YOU? Relax... work on building a FRIENDSHIP as opposed to a RELATIONSHIP. You know what people say? The best marriages are those where you marry your best friend. Build from that. Build on respect/kindness/honesty/trust - and the rest will fall into place. One important thing is choosing the right person! Don't ever give away your trust - your heart - until someone has earned it! It is a valuable, special, gift. Protect it ~ but keep your heart open. It's when you slam it shut is when you will have a problem! You will keep your love locked up... but you won't let it in , either! Works both ways... Life is not about guarantees.. Life is what you make it. Keep a positive attitude - be the best person you can be and make wise decisions. Hugz.0