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I had a quick look at the Reddit and GaG comments, they are quite good - (1) I think everyone agrees you should follow up on getting professional help, with mental health nearly always the main thing is not curing it but how to manage or cope with it (2) Give the guy some space to make a decision and if (a) He stays with you, try to explain what is going on in your head, arrange early warning signals for him to leave or for him to advise you to take a time out, tell him you are going for therapy (b) Do not apportion any blame, I was in a relationship with a girl who had issues and I had some myself, there is no guidebook that will help you through it and casting blame either on yourself or him (c) Try and dial it back in your own mind - The phrases "I am a monster" or "I am abusive" jump out at me, say to yourself "I know something is wrong and I am doing something about it (d) Probably most important try and meet each other halfway.
Option 2: He wants to break up (a) Talk to family and friends (b) The flat ask him to be a roommate or help with rent till you can get someone else to move in
Overall I don't want guess which way he will jump but I feel the most important thing is hang in there until you get professional help, it often feels like the biggest step forward getting help
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