Hi everyone! So, I have a ~possibly~ touchy question. My boyfriend and I of 8 months just broke up, namely with him breaking up with me on the grounds that I am not his soulmate. He's said he loves me, he's been very happy with me, but it would be wrong for him to continue our relationship to any further point (like marriage or moving in) when I am not his soulmate. He went on to state that he's felt the soulmate feeling before with an ex he met while studying abroad, but she moved home after a little over a month into the relationship. He stated that he realizes I have the soulmate feeling for him too. Which brings me to my 2 questions: philosophically speaking, when you have the feeling that is so deep seated it shakes every part of you that someone is the right person for you, how is it possible that they do not have that feeling? Does that mean one of your premises is "wrong"? And second, have any of you experienced breakup (either dumper or dumpee) on the grounds that you're not soulmates?
Most Helpful Guy
Well first, how do you and him define a soulmate? Understanding how each other defines the word 'soulmate' can help in answering your questions. Like do you define it as someone who you feel a special connection with? Or do you define it as someone who both sides feel a special mutual connection? The difference is that one is one-sided and the other is more balanced or mutual. So maybe you'd wanna think about that?2
Most Helpful Girl
I'm an expert dumper on the grounds of not being soulmates. Relationships are rarely 100% equal. Someone is always more in love than the other person, someone is always more jealous, and so on. That's natural. I can't say if he's lying to you or not but I've felt that soulmate feeling and it's hard to recover from that. Meaning that everyone else you encounter after that person is meh at most.2