I was at a sleepover last night, and some drinking went on. I was really happy and having fun, and this guy that likes me texted me.
I texted him back and said "what would you say if I asked you out right now" and he said "yes." Then my friend told me "YOU SHOULD DATE HIM!" So I said I would say "yes" too. immediately, he asked me out. Now apparently we're dating, and he just texted me but I don't want to open it.
I feel terrible now because I don't like him at all, he's just a friend. I like someone else already! What do I say to this guy? He's my friend, and I don't want to hurt him or make him feel embarrassed. How can I get out of this "relationship" without making him feel that way, and embarrassing myself too?
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Just tell him that you've had some time to reconsider your own stance on things and you were acting on impulse, and got too carried away before thinking through the full implications. Inform him that you're not comfortable with the idea and that you are sorry to have to disappoint him and perhaps play with his emotions, even unwittingly like that.
You must take the blame for your own actions. It is your fault and you cannot escape that. Act humble. Apologise. Promise you will learn from this mistake and pledge never to do it again.
In the end, even if you don't like confrontation, this can be a learning experience. In life you will need to find yourself in - not necessarily this specifically - but any number of situations where you have to hurt other people for your own self preservation. In the end you have to come first. Don't aim to hurt people if it can be helped, but it if can't be help you can't lay down and accept it, either.2
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