I was with this guy for about a year. I kept thinking we were really in love (but now I feel like it was more of a love-hate thing) , but for some reason I kept a wall up the whole time I was with him. A part of me felt like I just couldn't be my true self around him, and I felt like I was lying to him.
Basically, I had heard some things about him from mutual friends about an incident that happened with him and his ex-girlfriend. He was awful to her (stuff I'd rather not say, because it was demeaning)
But I couldn't help that I loved him so much. I mean anyone whose been in love knows what I mean. I never told him that I knew about all the awful things I had heard about him, just because I was scared of him getting angry. But not saying anything also made me feel like a liar. He also dealt with a addictions (mainly alcohol) and this took a strain on the relationship even though he tried to stop multiple times
Long story short, I figured I couldn't trust him and that I had been ignoring my instincts that were telling me that I shouldn't have been with him so I broke up with him. We didn't really talk after that
Now he's with someone else, and they seem happy (at least that what it looks like on social media) and I can't help but think I made a mistake. I never realized how bad this would feel because I still love him.
****But basically, if any of you have experienced loving someone who was wrong for you, I could really use some support/advice on how to move on/deal with these feelings, and I'd appreciate if there was no judgement. thanks
Most Helpful Guy
Clearly he had issues the made you not trust him, so you did the right thing in breaking up.
Delete yourself from his social media. Who knows what the truth is with his relationships now.. people often try to impress their friends with false information You have your own life to live, and you shouldn't be following him around and obsessing about his happiness...
Move forward now that you are free, do some things that single people can do--travel, take a course in something that will take your attention away from the past...
Most Helpful Girl
"I figured I couldn't trust him and that I had been ignoring my instincts that were telling me that I shouldn't have been with him so I broke up with him." You did what felt right, don't ever regret that. As far as social media, don't even sweat it people are always lying on there about how awesome their relationship is at first. Don't get me wrong, it is pretty relaxed a first, but months in the claws come out and they show their true colors. And even then, they're still lying on social media about how "perfect" their relationship is.