Most Helpful Guy
It looks like deep trauma issue... he is looking for freedom and intimacy but intimacy trigger his fear to be not free i think... he needs to feel this kind of complex feeling to then verbalize it and understand it in perspective with you but it can take a lot of time for it... does he have good relation with his mother and with his father? Does he have someone wise like a good friend to listen him? At last, try to be really comprehensive with him and focus on your happiness with your child: that should be your first matter of preoccupation i think... your children need to have you with them at 100%! Good luck and be good to you! :)
Most Helpful Girl
This relationship will never work. walk away. He's apparently told you repeatedly that he doesn't want a relationship with you. If it has been 4 years and he still keeps saying that, it's beyond time to walk away. At this point he would know if he wanted to be with you or not for sure. It sounds like he is just saying it nice and easy to not hurt you as bad. It really just sounds like he cares for you, but is really not feeling the same way you are. Maybe he just likes to hang out, be affectionate, and have sex, but he's made it clear where he stands. The longer you drag this on, the worse you will be hurt in the end. I went through something similar and of course it ended. All the signs were there and he was telling me how he felt, but I stupidly ignored it and wasted my time. again, if he really wanted to be with you he would after all of this time.